Hi everyone
I'm not so familiar with Singapore culture and all so just wanted to ask you guys if this thing I've observed is common or just an invalid assumption. I just don't want to stereotype.
So, is it true hat most singaporean guys measure their self worth by their weath, say money, cars, career and such? That said, if a guy has thse things to back it up for him, when it comes to looking for a girlfriend, he would have high expectations and think girls must be all over him?
I came up with such an idea based not only on what I read or heard but also from my own experience.
Back in my country, I got rich guys wanting to be with me (please don't flame, I just want to justify my idea). These guys they would show how wealthy they are but not in a way to impress me or win me over by such things. For example, they drive a car, whether it's an Audi, BMW or just a normal car, they wouldn't make any difference out of it then go overly proud. They'd treat me nicely because they think I deserve being treated like that and respect me for who I am. But here, in Singapore, I found something different. Although I'd live rather a luxurious life back home, I chose to live a modest and simple life in Singapore and never told anyone about my other life in my country cause just found no need to. I think this actually helped open my eyes on one thing that I would probably not get to see if I was to tell about my family background. Some Singaporean guys happened to hit on me, they were extremely proud of what they have. They'd find all ways possible to show of how loaded and sophisticated they are. For example, when they picked me up with their expensive car, they would make it like it's must be the first time I was driven in such a car, or even in a car. When they invited me to a posh restaurant, they would also make it like I must have never had chances to dine out in such a place and had such food before although I'd never let them pay the whole bill. They'd treat me nicely but at the same time they'd make me feel like they're giving me a big favour hence I must be so flattered to hang out with them. I never told them what they had on mind wasn't true or made the fuss out of these shallow behaviors. I'm still taking time to observe just to make sure I don't come up with a wrong conclusion hence to have a bias towards Singaporean guys.
But to be honest, this issue of mine with the Singaporean guys I've known has bothered me. Do many Singaporean guys really think and behave in such a superficial way? What gives?
Please don't ask me why I only got hit on by these types of Singaporean guys. It's not my choice. I really didn't target at them.
Cheers guys.
Originally posted by Life_as_we_know_it:Hi
Thank you all for contributing.
My original idea is not about what they focus on to build or boost up their image but more of how they show it off to the world. It's about their self absorption and arrogance that I reckoned amongst the Singaporean guys I've come across. That's why I took the guys I know back in my country for a random comparison. Those guys absolutely value and are proud of their own wealth and social position (who doesn't?) but have it showed in a proper manner for that people have high respect for them. Of course I'm not taking about all guys in my country nor all Singaporean guys. That's why I asked for your opinion.
It's just the culture here in Singapore... the government has promoted a materialistic lifestyle and the citizens have taken the bait.